Calling It a Presentation Doesn't Make It One: Presentation Skills
Updated: Oct 12
The other day, over breakfast, I got communication wrong.
My daughter recently started at a new school, and we were talking about how she was finding it. She talked about something that had been happening during break time.
By the time she goes upstairs to get her snack from her locker and comes back down, her classmates have often already gone outside. She does not always know where they have gone, and on more than one occasion she has ended up sitting in the school garden eating her snack alone.
I asked her what that felt like. “It feels like people don't like me.” I immediately did what many of us do when we believe we have better information. I corrected the feeling with facts.
The day before, I had been walking with her to school when another girl, who wasn't even in her class, stopped when she saw her and started talking to her.
Within moments, they were deep in conversation. They talked for much of the walk to school. The girl offered to help her with things and seemed genuinely interested in getting to know her.
So, at breakfast, I reminded my daughter of what had happened. Surely that was evidence that people did like her. Perhaps the other children simply hadn't had the opportunity to approach her in the same way yet.
Then she said something that changed the conversation. “Papa, I didn't say people don't like me. I said it feels like that.” She was right. I had answered something she wasn't saying.
When the Facts are Right and the Communication is Wrong
The evidence I gave my daughter was valid. Another child had approached her voluntarily, engaged her in conversation and shown an interest in becoming her friend.
Her experience was also real. When you are new to a school and find yourself sitting alone while everyone else seems to have disappeared somewhere together, it can feel as though nobody wants to be with you.
Those two realities could exist at the same time. My mistake was treating the first as evidence that should correct the second. I had heard something that sounded factually inaccurate and moved quickly to provide better information.
In doing so, I missed an important distinction between what was true and what she was experiencing.
I work professionally with communication. I teach people to clarify, structure, express, listen, respond, connect and influence. Yet sitting at my own breakfast table, with someone I know extremely well, I had fallen into one of communication's most common traps.
I became more interested in correcting the information than understanding the person.
We do this in professional communication too. A customer says a proposal feels risky, so we show them more data. A colleague says a process seems complicated, so we explain it again. An employee says the team doesn't seem ready, so we bring out the implementation plan.
An audience looks uncertain, and we add another slide. Sometimes more information is exactly what is required. But sometimes we are simply sending additional information towards a human being whose actual concern we haven't yet understood. And that brings us to presentations.
Calling a Tail a Leg
Abraham Lincoln was known to use a version of an old riddle. The wording varies, and the riddle itself predates Lincoln, but the idea is wonderfully simple.
Suppose an animal has four legs. If you decide to call its tail a leg, how many legs does it now have? Five?
No. It still has four. Calling the tail a leg does not make it a leg. There is a similar mistake we make with presentations.
Standing in front of an audience and delivering information establishes that you spoke. It does not establish that communication occurred.
Slides do not alter that distinction. Neither does excellent data, an impressive venue, a polished delivery or forty-five uninterrupted minutes at the front of the room.
Calling the transfer of information a presentation does not necessarily make it one. Something has to happen on the other side.
The Audience is not an Empty Container Receiving Information
A surprisingly common model of presentation can be reduced to three steps: I have information, I deliver the information, the audience now has the information.
If human communication were really that simple, most presentation problems should have disappeared decades ago. We now have better presentation software, better cameras, better microphones, more sophisticated visual tools, more data and almost unlimited access to advice about how to present.
Yet people still leave meetings unsure about what was decided. Customers still leave presentations unconvinced. Audiences still sit through forty-five minutes of information and struggle afterwards to explain what the speaker actually wanted them to understand.
The problem was never simply access to information.
The audience is not an empty container receiving information.
There is a human being on the other side. That person arrives with existing knowledge, experiences, expectations, concerns, assumptions, memories, priorities and feelings. Everything you say enters that existing human environment and is interpreted through it.
People therefore don't merely receive information. They interpret it.
That distinction matters because human beings do not conveniently separate reason from emotion when they enter a meeting room. Research across psychology and neuroscience has repeatedly found interactions between emotion and processes such as attention, perception, memory and decision-making.
This does not mean feelings are always factually correct. My daughter's feeling did not prove that the other children disliked her. But my evidence didn't prove that sitting alone couldn't feel like rejection either.
Both mattered if I wanted to communicate with her. Both matter when you present.
Presentation Tips are Useful. They are Not Enough.
Search for presentation tips and you will find an enormous amount of advice about what to do with your hands, how many words to put on a slide, where to stand, how to make eye contact, how to open strongly and how to improve your presentation confidence.
Much of that advice can be useful. There are also many effective presentation techniques worth learning and practising. But underneath them sits a more fundamental question: Did communication actually occur?
A confident speaker can still be an ineffective communicator. Excellent presentation delivery cannot compensate for a message that never becomes meaningful to the people receiving it, just as beautiful slides cannot compensate for misunderstanding.
This is why developing presentation skills has to go deeper than improving what the speaker does at the front of the room. We have to become equally interested in what is happening among the people listening. That changes the standard by which we judge a presentation.
What Effective Presentations Actually Accomplish
We often judge presentations from the speaker's side.
“I covered everything.”
“I explained the numbers.”
“I went through the slides.”
“I gave them all the information.”
These statements tell us what the speaker did. They tell us surprisingly little about what happened to the audience. The real question is what the presentation was supposed to accomplish in the first place.
Perhaps the audience needed to understand something. Perhaps they needed to recognise the significance of information they already possessed. A complicated idea may have needed to become usable, a customer may have needed sufficient understanding to make a decision, or a leadership team may have needed to recognise the consequences of doing nothing.
Sometimes the desired outcome is action. Sometimes it is understanding. Sometimes it is agreement, commitment, confidence, a decision or simply the ability to remember tomorrow what mattered today.
That is why effective presentations begin with a question that is easy to overlook: What needs to happen on the other side? It is a different question from “What do I need to say?”
The difference between those two questions can change an entire presentation.
Facts Have to Become Meaningful
Imagine that you are presenting a customer-experience problem and tell the room: “Twenty-three per cent of our customers leave before completing the process.”
That is a fact. It may be accurate, carefully researched and commercially important. But what does 23 per cent mean?
What is happening to those customers? At what point are they leaving? What are they experiencing? What does losing them cost us? What happens if nothing changes? What becomes possible if the problem is solved?
The statistic remains essential, but the communicator helps the audience understand its significance.
This is where story, analogy, examples, demonstrations, contrast and questions become valuable. Their purpose is not to decorate information or manufacture emotion. They can help another human being understand what otherwise remains abstract.
The strongest communicators do not abandon facts in favour of feelings. They understand that facts have to travel through human beings before those facts can produce understanding, decisions or action.
That was what I had failed to appreciate at breakfast. I had evidence. I had logic. I even had good intentions. But the person sitting beside me needed to be understood before she needed to be persuaded.
Audience Engagement is More Than Keeping People Interested
The same distinction helps us think differently about audience engagement.
Much of the advice about audience engagement focuses on asking questions, telling stories, using humour, inviting people to raise their hands, moving around the room or introducing interactive exercises. Again, these can all be useful.
But engaging presentations are not simply presentations that keep an audience busy or entertained. A person can laugh at your stories, participate in your exercises and still leave without understanding the point you wanted them to understand.
Real engagement asks more of the communicator.
What are people hearing? How are they interpreting it? Where are they uncertain? What matters to them? What are they resisting? What have they misunderstood? What question is sitting behind the question they have just asked?
Once you start asking those questions, the audience stops being the destination for your information and becomes part of the communication itself. This is particularly important when the stakes increase.
A customer presentation is not complete because the customer listened politely. A pitch is not successful merely because you reached the final slide. A leadership presentation cannot be judged only by whether the presenter appeared confident.
Presentation impact has to include what happened on the other side.
Communication is Not a One-Way Journey
At Presentation School, we think about communication as an ongoing process:
RECEIVE → INTERPRET → RESPOND → OBSERVE → ADAPT
This is not really a straight line. ADAPT feeds back into the communication. What you observe affects what you say next, how you say it, what you ask, what you explain, what you leave out, or whether you should stop talking altogether.
Communication therefore does not end when you respond. You observe what happens on the other side and allow that response to inform what happens next. But there is another part of the process that matters: communication has an intended outcome.
If the purpose was understanding, did they understand? If a decision was required, do they now have what they need to make it? If the intention was to make a complex issue clear, is it now clear? If you wanted the audience to recognise the significance of something, do they recognise it?
If not, the fact that you have finished speaking does not necessarily mean the communication is complete. What happened on the other side becomes information for you, and that information determines whether you need to clarify, ask, listen, explain differently, provide an example or allow more time.
The communication continues until what happens on the other side is consistent with what the communication was intended to accomplish.
There is, however, an important boundary to that responsibility. Effective communication is judged by whether the intended meaning was successfully understood. It cannot be judged solely by whether the other person subsequently did what you wanted.
Take a proposal as an example. I present a proposal because I want you to approve it. Of course approval matters. That is why I am presenting it.
For approval to be possible, however, you first need to understand what I am proposing, why I am proposing it, what it costs, what value it could create and what I am asking you to decide.
If you misunderstand those things and reject the proposal, there is evidence that the communication itself may have failed. Perhaps I need to clarify something, address a concern I missed or explain an important part differently.
But if you understand the proposal accurately, consider it and still decide that the cost is too high or that another option is better, the fact that you said no does not by itself mean that I failed to communicate.
Communication can influence a decision. It cannot own the decision.
We cannot define successful communication simply as getting the response we wanted. Because another human being remains free to disagree, decline or choose differently.
That makes communication fundamentally different from broadcasting. In broadcasting, I can send information and consider the transmission complete. In communication, what happens to the other person becomes information for me.
This is obvious in conversation, yet presenters frequently behave as though presentations operate under different laws. We prepare our slides, rehearse our words and decide what we intend to say. Then we enter the room and deliver what we prepared, sometimes regardless of what is happening in front of us.
But an audience is communicating too. A question tells you something. Confusion tells you something. Silence can tell you something. A repeated question may tell you that your first explanation did not work.
A capable presenter notices those signals and responds to them. They may explain something differently, provide an example, ask a question, remove unnecessary detail, revisit an assumption or change direction altogether.
The end of your presentation is not necessarily the end of the communication.
Seven Capabilities, Not One Polished Performance
This is one reason Presentation School develops professional communication through seven capabilities: Clarify. Structure. Express. Listen. Respond. Connect. Influence.
Each describes something a professionally capable communicator needs to be able to do. Clarify what matters and what the communication needs to accomplish. Structure thinking so another person can follow it.
Express what is in your mind so it becomes accessible to another person.
Listen to understand what is actually being communicated.
Respond appropriately to what you receive.
Connect with the person, not simply the information.
And Influence understanding, thinking, decisions or action without taking ownership of another person's choice.
These capabilities do not operate independently. Different situations require different combinations of them, and their importance becomes particularly visible when conditions change or pressure increases.
The breakfast conversation reminded me why they have to work together. I could clarify what I believed. I could structure an argument around the evidence from the previous day and express that argument clearly. But those were not the capabilities the moment required first.
I needed to listen accurately enough to distinguish “people don't like me” from “it feels like people don't like me.” I needed to connect with the experience behind those words before deciding how to respond.
Influence, if influence was even necessary, could come later. That sequence matters in professional communication too.
If someone raises a concern during your presentation and you answer the question you think they asked instead of the concern they actually expressed, eloquence will not solve the problem.
If a customer doesn't trust the proposal, another twelve slides may not solve the problem. If an audience doesn't understand why something matters, giving them more information may simply give them more information whose significance they still do not understand.
Improving presentation skills therefore requires more than learning to speak confidently. It requires learning to communicate.
Presentation Confidence Can Hide a Communication Problem
This distinction is especially important because we often use presentation confidence as a proxy for presentation capability.
Confidence matters. A communicator who can regulate pressure, think clearly and remain physically composed has greater access to their abilities when presenting. But confidence itself is not evidence that communication is working.
A person can confidently misunderstand an audience. They can confidently answer the wrong question, confidently overwhelm people with information or confidently continue through a presentation that stopped working twenty minutes earlier.
The reverse can also happen. A presenter may experience nerves and still communicate exceptionally well because they remain attentive to the audience, clear about the message and responsive to what is happening.
The objective, therefore, is not simply to look confident. The objective is to maintain access to the capabilities required to communicate effectively, including when pressure increases. That is a much more demanding standard.
Presentation Skills: From Presentation Delivery to Presentation Impact
Think about your next presentation before you open PowerPoint. You probably know what you want to say. You may already have the data, examples, recommendations and supporting evidence. Before organising any of it, ask: What needs to happen on the other side?
What does this audience already know? What might they already believe about the subject? What matters to them? What could make the information difficult to accept or understand? What do they need to recognise that they do not recognise yet?
Then consider the outcome. What should they understand, remember, decide or do when this communication is over?
These questions affect what information you include and what you leave out. They affect your structure, your examples, the stories you choose, the questions you ask and how you respond when something unexpected happens.
They also change the way you measure success. The number of slides completed is no longer the measure. Neither is the amount of information transferred.
The question becomes whether the communication accomplished what it needed to accomplish with the human beings in the room. That is the journey from presentation delivery to presentation impact.
Sometimes the Better Communicator Says Less
Looking back at that breakfast conversation, I could have done much less.
I could have acknowledged what my daughter was actually telling me. Sitting alone while the other children were somewhere else felt lonely, and in that moment it felt as though people didn't like her.
Acknowledging that would not have required me to agree that nobody liked her.
Then I could have gently reminded her about the girl we had met the day before. There was evidence that people liked her and wanted to know her too. And perhaps I could simply have stopped there.
Two realities could have been allowed to sit together: This feels lonely. There is also evidence that people want to know me. She was capable of processing both.
Perhaps the most effective thing I could have done was give her the space to do it. That is another lesson presenters can easily miss. We often assume that communicating more means saying more. Sometimes the additional explanation is precisely what gets in the way.
Calling it a Presentation Doesn't Make it One
There is a temptation when preparing a presentation to focus almost entirely on ourselves.
What will I say? How will I open? What will I do with my hands? Do I know the slides? Will I remember everything? What happens if somebody asks a difficult question? Do I look confident?
These questions have their place. But there is another human being on the other side. That changes everything.
A presentation is not simply information travelling from one mouth into several pairs of ears. Communication involves people receiving, interpreting and responding to meaning. The communicator observes what is happening and adapts where necessary.
That is why presentation skills cannot ultimately be reduced to presentation tips, presentation confidence or polished presentation delivery. Those things can contribute to an effective presentation, but none of them alone establishes that communication occurred.
The other day at breakfast, I spoke clearly. My facts were good. My reasoning was defensible. And I still got the communication wrong. My daughter needed only one sentence to show me why. “ Papa, I didn't say people don't like me. I said it feels like that.”
The distinction is worth carrying into every meeting, presentation, pitch, webinar and difficult conversation we enter. Because the audience is not an empty container receiving information. There is always someone on the other side.
Standing in front of an audience and delivering information establishes that you spoke. It does not establish that communication occurred.
Speaking is an activity of the speaker. Communication requires something to happen on the other side. Calling a tail a leg does not make it a leg.
And calling the transfer of information a presentation does not make it one.
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